How much of a perfectionist are you?

HOW MUCH OF A PERFECTIONIST ARE YOU?

Circle your response to the following 9 questions. Please be honest as you can.

I am likely to engage in all-or-nothing thinking eg ‘No one understands how important this is’
VERY UNTRUE OCCASIONALLY VERY TRUE
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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Delegation is something I don’t often do
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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I often think ‘No one will do it as well as I can’
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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I often criticise myself or others for even small mistakes (incl. family friends)
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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I often procrastinate because I when I do stuff, I want to do it properly rather than rushed.
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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I’m not even that satisfied with success!
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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As soon as one activity is done, I’m onto the next without spending much time praising the last.
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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My relationship with work colleagues is getting a little sour
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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My relationship with people at home is getting a little sour
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
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A B C

A bit more about perfectionism…

Perfectionism helps maintain high standards.     The strive for flawlessness as a result of perfectionism, is an essential driver of high quality patient care. So why would you want anything less? Answer – not all perfectionism results in good outcomes.

There are two types of perfectionism. Perfectionism can be healthy or unhealthy.   When it is healthy – everyone is a winner – doctors, the team, the patients, the community. When it is unhealthy – it’s no good for anyone – the doctor becomes ill, affects his or her family life, affects relationships with other doctors and other work colleagues, work colleagues enjoy work less, and ultimately patients and communities suffer as the quality of care subsequently drops.

Healthy perfectionism (for example in doctors) leads to good patient care, good health systems and generally functionally useful outcomes. The doctor performs well and is happy within themselves.   Life both at work and home is good.   The doctor is balanced.   For example, when a doctor has helped a patient as much as they can, a healthy perfectionist would accept that no more can be done.

Unhealthy perfectionism results from an interaction between extreme conscientiousness and high work demands/environmental pressures. The doctor fails to delegate, believes only they can do things, ending up micromanaging and criticising people.   The doctor is unbalanced. For example, when a doctor has helped a patient as much as they can, an unhealthy perfectionist might feel guilty and carry on trying to help – even though this might have an overall negative impact on the patient, themselves or the practice.

 

Interpreting the Results

  • If most of your ‘marks’ are in A – Great! Things are going great.
  • If most marks are in B – Whilst things aren’t critical, there are some things you need to work on.
  • If most in C – Things are becoming critical. Review what you have marked in section C. Work on them.
  • If your marks are evenly distributed across A, B and C – then just focus on the Bs and Cs.
A B C
Low level of unhealthy perfectionism.

You seem pretty balanced.

 

 

What to do

Remember to periodically keep an eye on yourself. Continue to listen to those around you who care about you.

 

 

Do you practise mindfulness?     It might be something worth exploring to make your life even better.   There are many low-cost mindfulness courses about.

Medium level of unhealthy perfectionism.

 

 

 

What to do

Take a moment to reflect on your life. Things aren’t too bad at the moment, but they will be if you continue to ignore the balance in your life.

 

Perhaps discuss it with someone you trust.   It might be a family member, a friend or even a work colleague.

 

Consider engaging in coaching, mentoring or seeing a CBT counsellor.

 

Also consider enrolling on a mindfulness course.

High level of unhealthy perfectionism.

 

 

 

What to do

Please make this a priority: reflect on the balance in your life.

 

 

 

 

Be brave and discuss it with someone you trust.   It might be a family member, a friend or even a work colleague.

 

Consider engaging in coaching, mentoring or seeing a CBT counsellor.

 

Also consider enrolling on a mindfulness course.

 

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